Making the decision to move a parent into an assisted living facility is a difficult decision for most adult children. It is said to be the second hardest decision that a person will make in their lifetime. The first is who will I marry, and the second is what to do when mom or dad are not safe to live alone in their home.
Change Is Always Difficult, Especially For Older Adults
Moving into an assisted living facility can be an unsettling time for older adults. The thought of leaving a home that they have lived in for many years can bring sadness and grief.
Adult Children See Their Parents the Way They Were Before
The decision to choose an assisted living facility can be just as hard for the children of aging parents as it is for the parents. Adult children tend to see their parents the way they were thirty years ago. Dad is still the strong steel worker and mom is an amazing homemaker that cooked three meals a day and kept the house immaculate. With these visions, many danger signs can be missed.
Adult Children Often Overlook Signs of Decline in Their Parents
Most adult children don’t think their parent is quite ready for a move to an assisting living facility. They think they are “safe for a little longer.” Many times this decision is made because they do not want their parent to be mad at them for suggesting that they are not safe in their home any longer and should consider a move to a safer environment.
Is Your Parent Ready for Assisted Living? Ask Yourself The Following Questions
It’s easy to overlook signs of decline in older adults; consider the answers carefully and honestly to the following:
- Is your parent telling you that he or she is eating, but you’re seeing food go bad in the refrigerator?
- Is your parent covering up bruises from falling that he or she doesn’t want you to see?
- Have you seen your parent wearing the same clothes when you go to visit?
- Does your parent hear strange noises in the night?
- When you look around the house or yard, is it as neat and clean as it used to be?
- Is your parent able to take medications correctly?
- Does your parent respond appropriately to an emergency?
When you really look at your parent, do you see the bright and vibrant person from years ago, or do you see a more limited person who needs some help one hour a day, three hours a day, or around the clock?
If you answered yes to even a couple of these questions, your parent may be ready for an assisted living facility.
Making the decision to move your parent to an assisted living facility can be difficult. Adult children have a responsibility to make sure that their parents are safe, properly cared for, and enjoy the golden years of their life.